Thank you for being part of my venting / releasing of my frustration about being stuck in the job search. Now I am going to do what I do: Shift the thoughts. That's what I help other people do anyway, it seems that I have to be a little more proactive doing that for myself.
What I will start with is recognizing what triggers me. Interviewing and answering vague questions. Getting rejected. Feeling rejected. What is the opposite of rejected? Feeling approval? Not feeling rejected. Feeling peaceful.
Sometimes, when my clients say to me something like, "I know, I have to be positive," I reply with, "You don't have to force yourself to be positive. Just recognize when you are being negative so you can shift how you are thinking."
When I have been in situations that required me to use my sales skills, I never enjoyed getting "no," of course. But I also didn't take the "no" as a personal rejection. I always realized that sales is a numbers game. The more contacts I made, the more times I would get "yes." And the trick to that is not assigning a lot of emotional attachment to any situation or contact. Not to focus too specifically on one sale. Because anyone in sales doesn't need just one sale, they need many. If I keep my numbers up in terms of applying and consciously not assigning excitement to any possible job, I am able to stay even and not start feeling rejected, or at least I can avoid feeling triggered.
One other thing I like to point out to my clients is that "excitement" is actually an emotional reaction that we should be cautious about. Excitement and anxiety are actually the same emotion. One is positive (excitement) and one is negative (anxiety). So to truly stay present, there is a bit of detachment that I have to encourage myself to give to each "opportunity" or conversation or interview or response to an application. Instead of excitement, I can choose joy that I am being recognized, and then just let the experience go,
We'll see how this goes. You're here with me so you'll be the first to read my attitude adjustment reports.
Please enjoy this picture of me, given to me and drawn for me by my niece, Luna. Little Miss Sally is on my head, Mr. Henderson is curled up by one foot, and Quentin is on the other side wondering who you are and what the hell you want.
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